From there, you can work your way down to the more major parts. The nipples are always a great place to start. Start with some more minor erogenous zone. To engage in this sex game, take an ice cube and gently press it against various areas of your partner’s body. “This is a night dedicated to your kinks and satisfaction,” says Patterson. “Think of it as a reward for your good behavior.”
Then be prepared to entertain whatever it is they’ve selected. Throw them into a hat and have your partner pick one out. Write down a list of sexual stunts you’ve fantasized about, but have not yet engaged in. Once you’ve completed everything on the list, it’s your turn to have some fun.
Have your partner create a list of tasks for you to perform. “The reward, whenever it may come, will be one amazing, mind-blowing night of passion,” she says. “Men need to be teased,” says Te-Erika Patterson, a relationship coach and author of She Wants: A Loving Female-Led Relationship. But make sure your partner knows to hold out for a bit. By the time you get home, you’ll be ready to go. Have them center the content on the things you like most in the bedroom. Maybe ask them to slip a photo into the mix. Ask your partner to send over some naughty messages throughout the day. They say you shouldn’t bring technology into the bedroom, but they never said anything about using it before the bedroom antics begin. Maybe that means performing an erotic massage. “Think of a penalty for whoever blinks first,” says Daniel Sher, the sex educator over at Naughty North, a Canadian-based sex shop. Get undressed and sit directly across from your partner.